Mature dating and relationships
I have read and heard countless times that guys prefer women with curves and more meat on their bones but I’m starting to wonder about that.
I have some super skinny friends who are considered really hot and always get hit on and then there are celebs who are super skinny, like Olivia Wilde and Megan Fox (she supposedly has a 23 inch waist!
), that are considered these huge sex symbols and are number 1 on every ‘hot list.’ Oh boy… I knew that sooner or later this question would come up and I would have to answer it.
And, like everything else, I will answer it honestly without sugar-coating.
To start things off, I can tell you that one of the things that guys will talk about is who we think is a hot chick.
I can also tell you that men have a wide range of what they consider to be an ideal weight and their “type” of woman.
There was a study I read in college about body weight and attractiveness in women.They had hundreds of men look at pictures of women’s bodies and rate them according to which they found the most attractive.Then, hundreds of women looked at these same pictures and rated how they than what the women believed to be the ideal weight that men want.So it’s really important to realize that whatever a particular man prefers, he probably wants you to have a little more meat on your bones than you think he ideally wants.(This study and others can be found in The Evolution of Desire by David M Buss) Now I am not saying go cancel your gym membership and eat a tub of ice cream on the couch.Weight means your entire body weight – muscle, organs, fat, water, etc. Fit means that you have a low body fat percentage (for women, having a body fat percentage in the lower 20s is good).So weight-loss shouldn’t necessarily be anyone’s goal. The problem is that a lot of women will go all-out on cardio and never do any weight lifting because they don’t want to get big muscles. You would need to have the intention to put on muscle to put on enough muscle to appear abnormally muscle-y.So don’t fear putting on muscle – a little bit of muscle actually looks good on women.Despite lower body fat % and the fact that some muscle on a woman is ideal, most women avoid it because muscle weighs more than fat (by volume).In other words, a woman who is the same size as another woman but has a higher amount of muscle than the other woman will actually weigh more than the less muscular woman.So even though the woman looks better, she steps on the scale, sees a number she doesn’t like and then gets discouraged.